Tuesday, January 04, 2005

My Baby's Growin' Up

I never thought this day would come. Now that it's here, though, I'm feeling a little trepidation... Brent starts pre-school tomorrow (Tuesday) afternoon! He'll go from noon-2:30 on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. He seems to be really excited and I hope he does well. But he's such a mama's boy, I'm a little nervous for him. It's partly our fault that he's like that-- the ONLY people who've babysat him are my parents, John's parents and my friend Chrissy, whose husband John grew up with, so he's not all that comfortable around strangers (I'm not saying that's a bad thing).
So for the first time, I'm a little sad that he's growing up. John's not helping, either. After we put Brent to bed tonight, he said about 10 times in a sad voice, "Brent starts SCHOOL tomorrow" :-)
I'm sure I'm worrying for nothing... in fact, he'll probably do better than John and I do. John's off tomorrow, so we'll both be going to drop him off and then out to lunch. I think the pre-school's drop-off routine will be really good, though. We pull up to the door, and the teachers come out to the vehicles and get the kids out and bring them up to their classroom. And they give us a number to display in the window for when we pick them up.
I'm sure by this time next month I'll be anxiously awaiting Tues and Wed afternoons so I can get a bunch of stuff done. But for now, I think I'll just be sad for a little while :-)

21 comments:

Jen said...

GOOD LUCK BRENT!!!

Remember, it might be hard on BOTH of you guys at first..and even if he initially cries or resists going, that doesn't mean that going is a mistake...he's just getting used to a new routine. Does that make sense? I've had parents pull their kids without giving them a chance to REALLY get used to it and see if they like it or not....some tears are normal, even though, as a parent, it's really, really hard, you know?

keesh said...

Aw, how cute. I am feeling the same way about Mason growing up so fast, although Pre School wont be until Fall of 2006 :). I wish you guys all the best. post us tonight and let us know how the little man did!

Renee said...

Thanks girls :-) Yeah, the tears thing is what I'm afraid of. He's not quick to cry unless he's really tired, but he's never been in a situation like this, ya know? We toured the school yesterday and he was really inquisitive and wanted to play with all the stuff... I'm just hoping that the draw of all the fun stuff with outweigh the anxiety of being away from us with people he doesn't know yet.

I know that everything you said is right Jen, but it IS hard as a parent to make your kid do something that makes them cry :-) So we'll see. I'm bringing my camera so I can take a pic of him with his little backpack going into the school... I'll post this afternoon and try to attach the picture. Not sure if I can do that on here... oh, I must be able to-- Eric puts pics on his all the time.

Jen said...

Eric is quite computer savvy, though. Or maybe he just knows computer savvy people.

If you can't figure out how to post the pics, email them to me. I know you have to do it as a POST and not as a comment, though, if that makes sense.

And hey...you have two and a half GLORIOUS hours to yourself to figure it out--minus the crying time. (You, not him).

Renee said...

Yeah, if I remember correctly, there's an icon to add pics on the post screen. And yeah, I was gonna say on my last comment that Eric is a computer geek and knows how to do all that stuff and I am not as cool :-)

So far, so good. Nobody cried, we got there a little early to meet his teacher; she seems great! John and I went out for lunch BY OURSELVES which was really nice. And now I'm gonna clean out Brent's toybox while he isn't here to convince me to keep everything :-) I'll do an actual post after I pick him up and see how everything went :-)

Anonymous said...

Hey Renee I know that really sucks Anthony started preschool last September and he goes Monday thru Thurs. from 12:15 to 2:45. I cried so hard on his first day of school. And Donovan is in 3rd grade and every time I bring him to school on the first day of the year I still cry. Melissa

Anonymous said...

I forgot to tell you He is sooo cute Melissa

Renee said...

Thanks Missy (it's weird to call you Melissa) :-) Yeah, John and I were both a little sad today, but I know once I get over it, I'm gonna love those couple hours of free time

Jen said...

Yeah, I can't call her Melissa either.

So how'd it go with Brent today?? Enquiring minds want to know.

Jen said...

INQUIRING, even.

Renee said...

LOL. For the INquiring minds:

It went pretty well, I think. His teacher said he did "great", but as soon as he saw me when I went to pick him up, he ran to me with his arms out to be picked up. As soon as I did, he started to well up and got all pouty-faced :-) His teacher patted him on the back and told him how great he did and said she'd see him tomorrow. At which point he started crying. By the time I got him all buckled up, he was bawling :-)

I asked him twice on the way home (only a 5 minute drive) if he could tell me why he was crying, but he just kept sobbing. By the time we got home, he was hardly crying anymore. After we got out of the van, he wanted to be picked up again. He laid his head on my shoulder and just hugged me for a minute. It was so sweet and heartbreaking at the same time :-)

I asked him about the snowflakes they made, and he told me all about them and then told me all about the rest of his day, completely forgetting that he was sad two minutes ago, saying that tomorrow when he goes back their snowflakes will be dry (they painted them) and they're gonna hang them from the ceiling.

I think he was just really overwhelmed by it all, which is fine and to be expected, but as Jen said earlier-- it's hard, as a parent, to see your child like that.

And it's hard for ME, since I stay home with him and know what he's doing all the time, to not really know how he's interacting. I mean, his teacher said he did great, but she doesn't KNOW him, doesn't know how he NORMALLY is. I wish I could hide like a "nanny cam" or something in his shirt so I could witness it all :-)

Anyway, bottom line is that he had a bit of a rough ending to the day, but he's excited to go back tomorrow, and that's all I can ask for!

Jen said...

Sounds like he's going to be just fine. =-)

Jen said...

So how did his second day go?

Renee said...

Better, I think. But I when I dropped him off, the teacher who came out to the van to get him wasn't HIS teacher (there are three teachers out there getting all the kids, so it won't always be his teacher getting him). I should have told this lady that it was only his second day and that he might need help when he got inside. But I didn't think about it until what happened next... she took him out of the van and as soon as they got inside, she turned around to get another kid. As I'm driving away, my poor baby is just STANDING there, looking around. It KILLED me not to get out and go help him. But I knew that one of the teachers would see that he needed some guidance and give it to him. So that was tough on me. When I went to pick him up, he was really happy; no tears. Mrs. S said again that he did great. Cried for a minute at free play time; she said she thought he was a little intimidated by that. Which is very accurate-- there are 15 kids in his class; he's never been around that many kids in his LIFE, and the times he HAS been around a few kids, he's known them or John or I have been there. But she said it only lasted for a minute or two and then he played. I think after a couple of weeks of going (and getting to know everyone) he'll like it a lot.

Jen said...

Awwww I can just see him standing there too...it must have taken amazing willpower not to go back (hell, *I* probably woulda)...sounds like he's adjusting fabulously well, though. (Yes, I said "fabulously.") How's John handling everything? He went with you guys for Brent's first day right?

Renee said...

I just got off the phone with Jen, but I'll briefly respond to her question so you all know. Yes, John went with to drop Brent off on Tues and was kinda sad. We went out for lunch, which was really nice, and then when we got home, I cleaned out Brent's toybox and brought a huge bag to Goodwill. John's days off usually consist of playing with Brent for most of the day, and he missed his little playmate :-)

Nik said...

Forgive me for not getting involved in the conversation, but I just wanted to say:
Renee, your son is absolutely adorable!!

Renee said...

Thanks Nikki :-) I'm quite fond of him myself ;-)

J said...

he must get his good looks from his mom.. *insert brownie points here* Just wait renee.. it gets better.. wait till he is in high school.. I have one more year and my boy becomes a man.. he will be in high school.. ACK! I will start drinking now and get a prozac prescription so I am ready..

Renee said...

Brownie points awarded, thanks Jeff! :-) Actually, although I *am* quite a striking presence (which I can't even TYPE with a straight face), he looks just like John.

I don't ever want Brent to be old enough to be in High School!! :-( I can't imagine how WEIRD that must be, Jeff!

Anna said...

Crazy Kids- All of You! Crazy Kids having crazy little kids ;)

Congrats to Brent!